Tuesday, October 13

Alan Turing And The Right To Be Gay

Alan Turing is considered to be the father of computer science. During the World War II Turning worked in the British Communication headquarters at Bletchley Park where he was instrumental in solving the problem of the Enigma machine.

As well as laying down the foundations for the personal computer Turing considered moral dilemmas in computing well before anyone had the technology capable of causing these problems. In 1950 he thought up a test to determine whether or not a computer had developed artificial intelligence. This is known as the Turing test, and involved someone engaging in an instant message type conversation with a number of people without being able to tell which one wasn't really a human (Turing, 1950).

It wasn't until 1980 that John Searle showed that a computer could follow the rules of language to devise a reply without understanding it (Searle, 1980).

Two years after coming up with this idea Turing was burgled by a nineteen year old boy with whom he had had consensual sex. He reported the crime and in doing so was forced to admit to his sexuality. He was charged with gross indecency under Section 11 of the Criminal Law Amendment Act of 1885.

This law, implemented by Attorney-General Richard Webster, was also designed to protect women and children from sexual abuse and so it was important that it extended into the domestic sphere. Yet it required witness testimony and so could be used for blackmail and extortion. Just over 50 years earlier, in 1895, Oscar Wilde had been given two years of hard labour under this law. Wilde's time in prison had severely damaged his health and he died, at the age of 46, just three years after being released.

Turing was given the choice between suffering Wilde's fate or choosing to take oestrogen injections for a year to decrease his libido. He chose the injections, they made him impotent and permanently deformed his body, his security clearance was revoked and he lost his job.

In 1952, aged 41, he committed suicide by eating an apple laced with cyanide, perhaps influenced by Snow White, the favourite film of his friend Godel. It wasn't until fifteen years later that consensual sex in the privacy of your own home was decimalised in the UK.

There have been a number of historic arguments as to why we should ban homosexuality. Lord Devlin (1959), a knight and British judge in the late '50s believed that if enough people were offended by something then it should be outlawed. This was because he thought that society was bound together by a shared morality and he believed that intolerance of homosexuality was one of these shared values. This view seems redundant in the modern age as an intellectual way to attack homosexuality.

Yet Michael Levin (1997), a professor of philosophy in New York, argues that heterosexual people's disgust of homosexuals is so great that it would be wrong to force them to have to work together. Levin argues that this disgust might be biological in origin since he believed that homosexuality was a disease, this is because he believed that homosexuals were intrinsically unhappy. This claim was supported by his theory that each bodily organ has a purpose which must be fulfilled in order for people to be happy. According to this sex with someone of the same gender is not morally wrong, but never having heterosexual sex would mean not fulfilling the needs of your body and this would make you intrinsically unhappy. He dismisses obvious counter examples such as celibate priests because the priest chooses celibacy for a 'higher purpose'. Needless to say, these arguments seem childish at best.

Sometimes people have used Kant's Categorical Imperative (1785) to justify banning homosexuality. This states that the morality of an action can be determined if we think about what the consequences would be if everyone were to do it. Lying is always wrong because if everyone lied it would have terrible consequence for society. The fact that if everyone were homosexual then no children would be born is often used to explain why it is unnatural. However, I think this use of the Categorical Imperative is wrong, it would be terrible if everyone were postmen and there were no farmers, however this does not mean that people shouldn't be free to be postmen. A universal law could be simply that no one can enforce sexual control over consenting adults who are not harming anyone, since a world where we were not in control of our own sex lives would be terrible, this is analogous to Mill's harm principle.

I believe that gay people should have the same rights as all other people: to have sex, to marry and to adopt children. To not allow this implies that homosexuals are something less than human and I think that it is this view which is most damaging to society.

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Friday, October 9

Online Dating Services Can Help The Older Gay Men

Often it becomes really tough for the gay men to find the right partners for themselves because it is not really easy to identify the correct person who thinks in a similar manner. The older gay men are even more in trouble to get the right choice as not too many people are expressive about their feelings.

This is a crude fact in our society that the young and beautiful people are awarded with a lot of opportunities in their lives when it comes to online dating. But the older people reaching the middle age often feel deserted and left alone in this trend of dating.

This discrimination is surely very painful and this is the reason why many older gay men suffer from severe depression due to their loneliness. Here are some tips which can be really helpful if you wish to boost up the dating life of yours.

This is really important to know what exactly you wish to get from your life. Some of the older gay men only like to do dating because they face problem passing time. But some of them are eager to find a partner for a long term relationship and even to get married.

The reason should be absolutely clear to you. If look matter a lot to you then this is better to decide before hand what features are those which you want to get in your dating partner. If you are able to develop a clear view then this becomes really easy to identify the crisis and solve it easily.

This is the commonest problem among the older men. They have a lot of responsibilities to accomplish and because of this they often have to neglect their own requirements and desires. They compromise with others necessities and neglect themselves.

If you are suffering from this problem then this is the time to get rid of this. Be very confident and bold about your thoughts and take every step accordingly. Some of the older gay men also suffer from identity crisis just because they are different from the general crowd. This can create anxiety and depressive phases. Make sure that you are strong enough to cope with these problems.

There are thousands of websites which offer free dating services for the older gay men. You can select one or two from the list and browse through the profiles to find out if they match your requirement or not. If you like those then this can be the right choice for you. But make sure of not leaking out any of your personal information to the online dating partner. Finally defeat your age and stay young by heart which is helpful in getting a good gay partner.

Saturday, October 3

Why Is It That Nice Guys Are Losers?

So, you are this nice guy who has long been registered with all the gay dating agencies under the sun, yet you did not really manage to pull off a memorable success story all through this while! Why is it that being a nice guy has somewhere deep within you, left a scar of feeling like a loser in the game of dating and relationships? Why is it that you do not get in return all that you think you truly deserve from a relationship, in spite of being the NICEST guy around town? Do you want to know why being a nice guy isn't so nice after all, especially if you wish to sustain the interest of an attractive gay date? Read on to know why all your NICENESS is driving away that cutie.

Being a nice guy, you must have noticed how you have been wading though the jungles of hot and cute gay singles across various gay dating agencies all through these years. You must have also noticed how you have been trampling your own chances with them one after the other under the merciless weight of your NICENESS. As such you have reached a level of supreme expertise in quickly losing cuties. This has led you to read this article and undo those skills that are no longer working for you. Most importantly you are reading this to know why these rules aren't working for you so you never ever repeat the same mistakes again.

First and foremost! Stop being repetitive, obvious, and typical. When your behavior begins too mirror image itself in similar patterns across various situations, it becomes too easy to know how you are going to react to the next situation. You will also notice that the frequency of such situations increases because your hot date throws more of these situations at you to test if you can stand up to the challenge of surprising him. And you fail because you repeat what is a habit. You repeat what is comfortable and you refuse to step out of your comfort zone of following your regular response prototype. This eventually makes your date lose interest in you because he no longer has anything to be curious about you. You come across as dull, uninteresting and eventually boring.

So start thinking out of the box. If you got to clear an exam, you need to study to crack any type of tricky question. You need to practice enough to be able to see through any tricky question no matter how nastily it is framed. So make the attempt. Instead of using your same old formulas in relationships, start reinventing new formulas. Remember "Practice makes perfect", be it studies, profession or your personal life itself.

The second and most immediate area of attention is to tilt the equation of power in your favor. If you do not retain your share of the power, trust me no one likes a vulnerable and dependent mate. The vulnerability being discussed here is not your physical vulnerability, which may even be attractive. But it's more about your mental stability, resoluteness and steadfastness in the face of any given crisis.

Some instances of frequent mistakes committed by men include, calling up your date incessantly. I know hormones are high; curiosity is at the hilt, you wanna really get to know him better; you wanna see if it clicks and so on and so forth. But all this is not gonna happen all of a sudden right? You have got to learn to lean back and hold a lot more than calling more than twice a week. You need to wait at times till the interest levels soar high enough within your potential gay date and they start initiating equally or more.

Else, you are obviously gonna feel used, even if your gay date never really felt so, because you just never allowed yourself to realize that you didn't give yourself the time to know if he is equally interested as well. You didn't help him generate interest in you because you were just so easily available at all times. You just showed you are dependent on this new factor in your life for a sense of security and that you really have no focus on greater priorities in life.

Some other acts you might want to give a second thought to are as follows:
- Asking him out too soon
- Being impulsive and not really weighing your options - before making decisions
- Giving gifts too soon
- Revealing your true inner feelings too soon
- Incessantly discussing your feelings and continuous changes in states of mind even if he shows a need for space, time, distance or even disinterest altogether.

So how can you confuse these cuties that seem to confuse you all the time? I know you have this whole need of being provider and providing happiness. But hold on, that hot date has come across just too many providers and may be ticking you based on some other factors he needs to figure first. Better yet, you might throw back some tests at him in return as well, such as ridiculing him with a good sense of humor. Create confusion in his mind. You could say something like, "Are you testing me? Are you scared of me? Lol! Already eh? Hahaha! Its fun messing up with you. ;D Lol!" Make him inspect himself.

Browse to learn some tips to a humorous conversation online, and if he retaliates angrily, tell him it is funny that he found it upsetting. Tell him you really appreciate that it is a nice thing about him that he is perfect and yet has a great sense of humor. This confuses him further and makes him make up to you for the drama he just exhibited, but he notices in hindsight that he just behaved in a way he wouldn't have wanted to. He did something to invoke a comment he wouldn't have normally heard from anyone else. He begins to wonder if he has any flaws.

Try some of these tips and avoid some of the pitfalls discussed earlier. This will help you will see how you have a larger variety of gay singles to choose from various gay dating agencies before you finally decide to settle for one.

Friday, September 25

Things That You Should Consider Before Dating Gay Men

Can you tell if somebody is a gay just by looking at him? This is not easy to know somebodys sexual preferences before getting closer to him. This is the reason why many gay men face embarrassing situations after approaching a person who is not a gay. But there are techniques which they can easily use to become successful in dating.

If you have started liking some guy then first of all try and understand whether this person feels the same about you or not. Moreover you can gradually build a friendship with him and get to know him more before you approach him for a relationship.

The other way to find a gay partner is the online dating websites which will help you out with a number of profiles of people who think in the same manner. But there are few things that you need to keep in mind before looking for a partner.

Getting a good and compatible partner is not as easy as it sounds. This can happen that you are dating a gay man who is already into other relationships. They are simply disloyal and these sorts of relationships can only harm you instead of benefiting.

Some of them are sexually inclined to both men and women. They are even more harmful because they will never be trustworthy to you. The chances are very high that you will get hurt badly. Moreover this is not good for you mentally and physically if the partner is disloyal.

This is nit very rare that people will try to mock you for what you are but you need to stand them rudely and confidently. Make sure that you are not at all ashamed of being yourself.
This is what matters a lot when you are looking forward to dating gay men. Finally never let your gay partner dominate you and take advantages from the relationship. This will only leave you completely frustrated after a certain period of time.

Some gay men find this very embarrassing to approach someone for dating in person. The online dating websites are meant for them. Here you have the opportunity to browse through a number of profiles and this is how you can choose the correct partner.
Some of the profiles are fake but an authentic site with proper copyright and reasonable terms and conditions will be a great aid for the gay men.

You can chat and have phone conversations with the online dating mate and then proceed to meet him.
But be aware of not disclosing the important private information to a stranger before knowing him well. These are few useful dating tips for the gay men.

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